So how do you feel after the last video of him by his share of this with people in the past in coaching
sessions or even workshops and is generally when I'm teaching this is generally the time where some
people cry.
I don't know why some people get the revelation that aha moment.
I'm actually quite a good person at heart.
And the answer is yes you are.
Hence the reason you're taking this course because you are one of the life coach because you care about
people because you are one to make a difference and guess what's the world desperately needs.
More people use it.
Please be encouraged.
All right.
This is fundamentally the greatest impact you can make in other people.
As a coach encouraging people sometimes this is all people ever need just a little bit of encouragement
to get out there to pursue their goals pursue their dreams and fundamentally do the things that's in
their hearts to do.
But here's the thing.
There is a reason why people pursue their passions in life why people born pursue the things that they're
passionate about the things that they allow of.
And this is because of insecurity and self doubt.
People fundamentally believe that who they are is not enough.
They're not smart enough.
They're not skilled enough they're not talented enough.
There are goodlooking enough they're not good enough.
They're not this enough.
They're not that's enough.
You know I can remember having a conversation with with Karen my wife going back around about three
years ago.
Julie Karen is kind of got a beautiful voice.
Karen sings and she has done since she was a little girl.
She never pursued a music or a singing career.
She never really took it serious.
And it wasn't until I started hearing her current partnered up with a band over the last few years and
started writing luron stuff was phenomenal It was just really catchy it was upbeat it was quite uplifting
music.
If I make sense and I always said to cover Karen why have you never taken music or singing seriously
as a as a profession.
And she said Ah no I couldn't.
I'm not good enough I'm not good enough.
Me being me.
I'm thinking okay good enough.
That's an identity belief right.
Because some people better in this whole section is about looking at beliefs the beliefs that we have
about who it is that we fundamentally are.
And no one can get down to the nukes and crannies their own people fundamentally believe that they are
good enough human beings or they are not good enough human beings.
With someone believes that they are good enough they are not going to have any problem taking risks
getting in themselves so they are taken right chances and pursuing their dreams.
But when someone fundamentally believes who they are isn't good enough or they are going to be more
likely to just hang back play it safe commit life to the comfort zone and pursue the things that they
really want to pursue.
So I understand the current belief which you say that I'm not good enough right.
Because out of the mouth is just like that reflow for heart what someone believes in the heart will
come out of their mouth in some way.
So if you're paying attention to the things that people see you will be able to see what it is that
they fundamentally believe and that's to do with this whole discernment thing that I discussed earlier
on.
So when I said I'm not good enough.
I said okay.
Compared to who.
Because if you're not good enough you can only be NO GOOD ENOUGH in comparison to someone else.
So I said okay in comparison to who.
And she said Oh I'm not good enough compared to to Katy Perry.
And there was someone else that she mentioned at the time.
I think it was Amy.
Amy McDonald the great Glaswegian singer unassailed Okay.
So you're.
You're not big enough in comparison to kick Perry or Katy Perry and Amy McDonald.
Tell me grace.
Could it ever be as good as Katy Perry and McDonald's.
And she said I know they're pretty good.
I said okay let's just think about this practically here.
Could you ever be as good as.
Or as good at being Katy Perry or being in a McDonald's as what they are.
And she said.
No it couldn't be as good at being who they are as far as what they do because I know they never will
be them.
And I said Ah no that's interesting.
So if you could never be as good being them as what they are because you are into them many never will
be them then.
So you just simply commit to being yourself instead.
And that seemed to be a bit of an aha.
I binning White Swan Moment for me because if you think about in life many people will compare themselves
to other people.
It might be the case right now that you're comparing yourself to me.
You may be thinking that you are better than me.
You may be thinking that I'm not as good as you.
And based on your perception of me is going to determine how you feel and how you feel about me.
Perception is everything.
So when it comes to life coaching let's just bring them back here.
The only thing that will prevent you from getting out there and applying all this stuff is if you fundamentally
believe that you're not big enough raise.
So the question that I would ask is who are you not good enough in comparison to if you look at me.
Listen I'm not perfect I am flawed every single win every single way.
I still feel like I'm winging it sometimes.
Like some days I wake up.
Thing right.
Going to do a life coach and surf Acacia's course here today.
I'm going to talk about.
I've got no idea.
I just make it up as I go.
Honestly I do what I do so honestly that makes sense.
So the one scene here is when it comes to this good enough principle.
Looking at the sets of beliefs that people building this their saw on you right now where you currently
stand in life you'll be a and basing your life on a set of beliefs who you are as a person is good enough
or who you are as a person is not good enough and whether you believe that you're good enough or not
enough is going to determine the risks that you take on a day to day basis.
It's going to determine how confident you are far more positive results.
At some point in the future it is going to determine how you feel about yourself your self-esteem if
you feel that you're not going to fall that's based on the assumption that you're worth very little.
But you know what I'm hoping is that after the last few videos you're going to start to see who it is
that you actually are you know and this is important because if you want to coach people and life leaders
go far you have got to go fast in order to positively influence other people.
So we've already looked at who you are.
In the last video I remember that exercise we asked you to close your eyes see no picture of the person
in front of you.
This person is honest the lawyer or the loving they're giving they're caring they're passionate they're
so bar all these things fundamentally make you you or I saw this very person well we've established
is you this is who you fundamentally are.
No I'm not asking if you are paraphyletic or what I'm saying is that the person that you would gladly
be in a relationship with.
And if the answer is yes then you've just validated yourself.
This means that whilst you're not perfect you are good enough you're good enough for you.
If you want to work towards being perfect well good luck.
Well Alex I've never met a perfect person.
My whole life never heard of anyone else who has either but it does mean that you can commit the rest
of your days if you so choose just to simply work towards being better.
And if you think about it this is kinda.
How good is our beliefs hold us back in life.
Do you remember the story I told you about the elephants the elephant that was attached to the to the
PEG the.
When the Elephant was a baby elephant believed to grow to grow to develop this belief about a self that
there wasn't strong enough to break free from the peg and that became the glass ceiling that prevented
the elephant from being free in life.
And in the same way if you fundamentally believe that you're not good enough not strong enough not talented
enough not this enough in comparison to other people with the same very belief there's going to act
as the glass ceiling in your life is going to prevent you from getting from where you ride to where
it is you want to be swanzey in here is that our beliefs form the foundations that will either make
us or break a single life.
You see there are foundations I believe in my life.
One is I'm not perfect I am imperfect in every single way but I am loving and giving and caring.
I am passionate I'm honest I'm loyal I'm sincere I'm loving I'm giving I'm caring I'm growing up developing
today and doing my best to be better than I was yesterday and tomorrow I'm going to do my very very
best to be better of being me than how I've been today which means that for me I'm not perfect but I
am good enough power effects up here somewhere in the clouds which means that the way I live my life
choices that I take the actions that decisions made.
My behaviour is the things that I commit my time to the things that I commit to pursuing in life.
For me the sky's the limit because whilst I don't have all the answers there's nothing stopping me from
getting there and learning if I want to be a better version of me in different areas that I can just
simply get out there and find some people who are being better up me in those areas and rather than
compare myself saying though what they're doing learn from them is this is the openness to lauerman
so so you do it with out of principle is this if someone believes that they're not good enough there
are always going to feel like we have a limitation on life and the limitation is actually just the belief
it's the belief that acts as a noose around their neck that's holding them back and holding them down.
But if you are willing to accept that who you are as an individual as a life coach as a mother father
son daughter brother sister friend professional whatever does it matter what you've done in the past
doesn't matter what you have not done in the past does it matter if your past is destructive for me
my past was criminal or broken the law of developed the criminal record from a self of horrid people.
But in the past my actions and my behaviour as the rise from it then say that I had about myself back
then which was inaccurate.
Today as I consider it I'm curious I don't see that I've grown to recognise this is who I am a loving
and giving caring and giving all these sorts of things.
I'm good enough I'm good enough.
I am the kind of person that a lot of people want to be friends with.
I'm not saying that the Bloomy and trumbore here I'm seeing it just as people come to me for cause and
I'm good enough for them.
I've got over 29 thousand people taken my courses around the world well the courses aren't good enough
for some people.
They are good enough for most.
I'm only speaking to you right now in the assumption that you're someone who really wants to learn.
I'm just do my best to teach.
I'm doing my best.
Well it's not perfect.
I know that is going to be good enough for some which means that in terms of how far I go in life the
sky's the limit for me.
But in terms of how far you go in life if you choose to accept who you are is good enough.
Then my friend the sky is also the limit for you.
So this is that good enough principle.
It's there on the rawest form is the core fundamental limiting belief.
All of us will base our lives on in Google Earth or be it not good enough.
Yes not enough will express itself in in many different ways.
Generally based upon the things we do are not a good enough singer.
Not a good enough mom.
I'm not a good dad I'm not good enough.
This employee boss manager whatever does it matter but when we separate ourselves and our identities
from things that we do and how well we are doing what we do which means our identity is no longer performance
based.
Who we are is a constant.
And that means that whether people like us dislike kissell LOVE us hate us approval approve of us disapprove
of us there's no one else in the world who can add anything to us or who can take anything away from
who we are.
It means who we are in our identity becomes constant becomes grounded becomes so kuhar and it's only
upon this foundation.
Can we then go one of the most exciting rewarding felling and productive life and in order to do it
that's from start reading all the life coaching tools and techniques and goal setting frameworks and
or so I think so this is a rough principle.
Makes sense.
I look forward to seeing again in the next video.